The Fairy Garden (1)

[npixelz]

Ikr

Him not giving up is, imo, one of the themes of the movie, hence why it was my favorite part, because it shows that even if we fail a lot, we can keep trying

[galled]

OK, pix. I'm sensing something good is going on in your life. Details! Fill us in!

[npixelz]

Finally someone noticed! Lol

Yes, I am, to put it simply; in love!

We've actually known each other for awhile on Discord, and we try to play Minecraft on the Switch whenever I'm off from work. I started having feelings for her, but due to my past experiences with such matters I didn't think I had a shot. She started flirting with me but I didn't notice the cues. Finally there came a day in voice call where she mentioned being, to use her words "interested" in someone, and I'll be honest, my heart sank. I assumed she was interested in someone else, not even considering it might be me, but wishing it was. Later that night we were messaging and she told me the one she was interested in was me! I told her I felt the same way, and news spread in our server like wildfire, though everyone had already known her feelings, as it seems I was the only one oblivious to her feelings, lol! One person said we had only confirmed our feelings and hadn't actually made an official relationship, so I asked her out and she said yes! Since then we've been using Discord bots that send gifts of hugs and kisses and all that quite frequently, while also calling each other pet names and trying to find time to chat, even if we can only send messages sparingly when at work!

It has been quite the amazing time and I really hope it lasts. Not just for my sake, but hers as well, since I want her to be happy, and she also told me that she had told herself, before liking me in this way, that if she ever did get into another relationship (since she was aromantic (until being in a relationship with me), following previous relationship failures, plus at the moment she's asexual) it would be her last. So all in all I really hope that this is the one, for both of us!

Best thing is, unlike previous girlfriends who were like 4 or 3 years younger than me, she's actually the same age!

Only potential problems are thus; she already has child, but that's no problem really, and she lives in the USA, so if we end up wanting to move in (I know, it's a bit early to think about that, but j like yo think ahead), one of us would have to leave our country, but we can figure it out if and when we get to it!

So it's really been such a blast, and I do so hope it lasts for a long time

[Lemon Cheesecake]

I am so happy for your Npix!

Fresh relationships always have that air of excitement to them but lasting ones have security & comfort so I do hope you get to experience both.

Complications for the future if you live in 2 different countries though ... unless one gets a work permit you'd have to get married versus moving in together... and you need to apply ahead for that or you can have it turned down by immigration, You don't have to hire a lawyer, just make sure you research the application process.

But in the meantime enjoy what you have in the now.

Sounds like you are a romantic at heart & I know you have a way of inspiring us on Windlyn so I am sure you do the same with your new special friend. And most importantly, it sounds like you are honest with each other & that is a deal breaker for the long haul.

[galled]

Fantastic news!!

Figuring out why both of you ended previous relationships will be helpful in maintaining your current one. Plenty of time for that, but it will give you both insights into how you both can manage to keep things "together."

Best of luck to both of you!

[npixelz]

Thanks Lem!
True enough, but I haven't experienced the security and comfort side yet because my three previous GFs ended it within two weeks! Hopefully this turns out different!
I'll definitely have to research that if and when we decide upon living together! Thanks for the tip!
Ty, I shall!
Aw thanks, I try my best to inspire! As they say in Ravenclaw; wit beyond measure is man's greatest treasure. I do try to be honest! And I believe she's doing the same!

Ty gall!
That's true, I just don't know how to go about it as I'm hopeless at these things. I was oblivious even to her flirting with me! But I will definitely try and figure that out!
Thanks so much!

On that note, maybe you could help me in figuring out my past relationships, since I'm not good at that
Not sure how you can help, but maybe you have an idea, idk, I'm just spitballing here

[galled]

Ty gall!
That's true, I just don't know how to go about it as I'm hopeless at these things. I was oblivious even to her flirting with me! But I will definitely try and figure that out!
Thanks so much!

On that note, maybe you could help me in figuring out my past relationships, since I'm not good at that
Not sure how you can help, but maybe you have an idea, idk, I'm just spitballing here

I am certainly willing to help if I can. This is what Winners do!

In broad strokes, like for most people (so don't feel bad) it's lack of communication. Additionally, people tend to not listen to their gut/feelings as much as they should (your body and mind trying to communicate with your consciousness). If something feels different, it usually means something is different! Which leads back to communication to gain understanding the feelings. If you don't understand something, ask questions. What's worse, being made fun of for asking a question or not asking a question and never knowing something important and having the relationship end? When asking someone a question who you regard as a friend, the fear of asking should be zero or you have to ask yourself if they're really a friend. But honesty in explaining that the relationship is important to you so want to check that all is well will usually be well received by anyone.

From our last exchanges we really don't know why your first two relationships ended because you either never asked and/or you simply forgot. Either way, it was due to not caring enough about the breakups to know or remember, so you probably put very little (if any) effort in trying to salvage them.

The last one we know was giving up after emailing and not getting a reply (even though she tried emailing you and she never got a reply). <all very sad, but experiences to learn from>

The question is why don't you care enough about relationship issues to understand what's going on so you can keep them healthy? I believe you cared about these people enough to start relationships, and I don't believe you were trying to be cruel (nefarious motives), I have to think it's fear. Fear of loss or rejection is perhaps the #1 fear we all have, but one should really flip the equation around and look at it a different way--as outlined earlier:

What's worse? The loss of the relationship or possibly looking silly for asking questions to understand how to nurture it?

Have a great day!

[npixelz]

Makes sense, and I would say fear of rejection IS very strong within me, as I've experienced rejection many times

[Cilencio Cerbera]

BRUUUUUUUUUH CONGRAAAAATZ!!!!

Dang your encounter with her and mine with my partner do have some similarities, I thought I was reading our story when reading yours XDDD


Heck bruh wish you all the best in this relationship, hopefully all works out good for you and her

And holyshet Galled's analysis be very comprehensive, I'm amazed!

[npixelz]

Thanksssss!

Lol if you feel like it you can share the details! I wanna know just how similar the two situations are!

Thank youuuu! Me too!

Ikr, galled is a smart cookie

[galled]

Hey congrats CC!!

Bask in the feeling that all is right in the world when love is in the air! Must be spring.

No, seriously so happy for both of you!

Awe shucks...

Love is the most powerful experience in human existence and it makes the world better. My hope is another can learn from my experiences and not make the same mistakes I've made.

[npixelz]

Yeah, congrazzles Cil!

Idk why but the phrasing reminds me of a horoscope there lol

Tysm, so am I!

^-^

Magic exists; it's called Love. Also that's the hope!



We talk via text on Discord every day, even work days, just on work days it's a little less. And on days off, if our schedules align, we chat in a voice call, most likely playing minecraft on the switch
We did all this before, but now it feels extra special, ya know?

[Lemon Cheesecake]

I think online meeting , especially gaming, is very common now. And you get to see how the person repsonds to challenges & disappointment without being the target of it , haha.

I know someone who met their partner online, only "dated" virtually for a few months, lived in different states, met I think once in person? , got married & now have a kid. What a whirlwind, but it seems to be working for them! So you just never know where your commitment will lead!

All the best in the relationship, build it on friendship so even if you go your separate ways you will always want the best for each other & will remain friends.

[silverberry]

Yooo congrats!!

It's really great that online communities let us meet and connect with people despite the physical distance between.

[galled]

I think of the old days when people fell in love at great distances via snail mail. Just wow! I see how it can happen today with internets, but handwriten letters... just wow!