Monkey's Magical Treehouse of Awesomeness

[Lemon Cheesecake]

what's that quote..."God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

it's the wisdom to know the difference that's the trickiest part for me...I tend to stress over the little things

[Kyndreth]

Wisdom is not my strong suit. I'm not even bothering with it. When it comes to me I'm always blind.

*shrugs*

[Gingerale]

love is blind sometimes.

[Kyndreth]

And I'm always blind to wisdom

[murmurlade]

fake it till you make it tho

[Kyndreth]

Heh. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't!

[murmurlade]

I read a little article on how this woman BS'd her way through an IT-related job interview that was WAY out of her league by googling questions that might come up and researching lol. Studying smart.
Somehow she got the job, and learnt how to do the stuff she was supposed to know how to do during the job. And everything worked out perfectly, except probably the crippling anxiety she had when she first started working.

[MonkeyGirl18]

She got the job?!

I woulda thought it's be obvious to tell if someone is bs'ing their job interview, no matter how prepared they made themselves.

[Kyndreth]

Yeeeesh, that's ridiculous. Kudos to her though.

[Lemon Cheesecake]

For some one to put that much effort into research and self study and keep it up - I'd be willing to hire them. If she answered the questions correctly is that really BS ing?
Anyone can look up stuff but when it comes to discussing it that doesn't mean they have an understanding of how it works.There have been times in history when you learned by doing before the doing became part of a class you could take. (like computers for instance). And I am assuming a large number of people have learned how to use and work their way around computer programs without having taken actual classes to do it or getting a degree.

[Kyndreth]

I mean, yeah, if someone can be correct and get through an interview/be mostly right and fake it like that? That's pretty damned amazing in my humble opinion.

My supervisor always said that what's more important is personality/people skills. The technical skills can be taught, but people skills...

[MonkeyGirl18]

Sorry for changing topics and all, but I just need to vent something out... in spoilers, of course...

[+] SPOILER

So, it's almost 12:30 am, I should be in bed because I have to wake up early for work...

Then all of a sudden, I start getting overwhelmed with stress and anxiety about how I'm behind in my school work.

I can't sleep, I'm burning up and that makes it impossible for me to sleep. Like, my whole freaking body is sweating.

But, the semester started out good. But it snowballed real fast. I get home and my dad always asks if I had homework (hello! this is college! When do I NOT have homework?!)... The more he asks that question, the more pressured I feel. Eventually, that led me to lose all motivation to even do my school work, I try, but I can't even force myself to do it.

I'm in English 102, which is basically research and rhetoric. The class moves waaaay too fast, this isn't my first time taking the class. I struggle with the style papers we do, I can't argue for shit because everything my teacher wants us to argue, I don't understand and don't care to understand. Most of it was political and economical and I don't bother with that stuff. I don't understand that stuff. How can I argue against it?

Before we finish one paper, the teacher is already introducing the next. It makes me overwhelmed and feel as if I can't save myself.

It's almost April, midterms was a couple weeks ago, and I'm just panicking now.

I neeeeeeeed to pass this class.

I might still be able to save my skin, idk, but if I can, I don't have to worry about that class anymore. Like, fuck this shit.

All I want to do is learn how to work a damn video camera and how to write a script. Not how to rebut someone's argument, not to argue anyone, not to analyze anything. Just work a fucking video camera.

I did good in my video classes, but not in English, nope. Not fucking English.

Someone save me, I can't handle all this pressure.

I'm going to try to work on as much homework as I can tomorrow in an attempt to catch myself up and bring my grade up. I'm so fucking desperate, but if my dad keeps asking me about my school work, I think I'm going to lose it.

Anyway, I needed to do this. Now I need to try to get to sleep.

[Kyndreth]

I know how that feels, that's me in a coding for artists and designers class. Film major?

I also have trouble handling the pressure. Does your uni offer counseling/crisis services. I'd suggest talking to a counselor when you're super stressed. I had a massive freak out and melt down two weekends ago.

Also over midterms, also over grades, also over school, yeah. It sucked. It sucked bad.

There was some pretty useful info offered and advice for me.

Breathing exercises, and just calm down, rest well, take things one step at a time. Break down your bigger projects into little parts.

Take like 2 minutes out of your day to plant your feet flat on the floor, put your hands on your knees, close your eyes, and start breathing in and out (count to four I think it was). Tap your finger on your knees. Focus on that sensation. Continue breathing slowly. Focus on how you feel, try to relax the muscles a little. You can do this anywhere you have a place to sit and 2 minutes.

You could probably do it standing, and just tap on your arms or something.

I dunno, just... do your best I guess? I'm certainly not a counselor. I'll try to help if possible. Maybe not on homework, I'm swamped to death right now, but general freak out break down your projects stuff, I can try.

*shrugs*

I'm just kinda meh at this stuff, but I did start doing some research on anxiety and stress and dealing with it

[Gingerale]

can you get a tutor? Most Universities around here have a tutor program where you can meet at the library or a local coffee shop. Get as much as you can done tomorrow and in the meantime, if you wake up in the night then go do some work and that should make you tired pretty quickly. Then maybe you can nap tomorrow to catch up on rest. I wish I could wave a magic wand but if you persistently plug away at it then hopefully you will at least pass.

that sounds like some good relaxation exercises to try from Kyndreth.

<pats you...shhh it will be ok...>

[MonkeyGirl18]

Yeah, I'm a film major. Well, before I went to a community college since I couldn't retake Eng 102 at the uni I was in.

I want to go back to that uni, but if I can't pass Eng 102 this time, I'm not going to be able to.

I like the uni I went to, I liked the film program there. Well, it's broadcast and electronic media there, but it's the same thing.

But when it comes to counselling, I need that, not just for school, but for like everything. I have bad anxiety. I need to get it taken care of but I'm too scared to tell my dad about it. But I do need the help to help sort it all out.

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There's probably some way to get a tutor, but I've tried it once before at uni, trying to get someone to tutor me, but I got so anxious, I didn't really know how to go about it. They couldn't help me with my problems in class because I didn't know how to explain my problem because I was focusing so much into being calm and not panicking and getting upset.

I probably just need to talk to my professor for any kind of advice to catch up or something.