Monkey's Magical Treehouse of Awesomeness

[Gingerale]

talk to your Prof but the school should have counselors that can help direct you. You are over 18 so you can go to your medical doctor and ask for a referral for counselling for your anxiety and you don't have to discuss it with your Dad if you don't want to. But I would suggest once you feel stronger that you do discuss it with your parents or have them go to a counselling session with you when you are ready. Most health insurances should cover it and if they don't the government provides metal health clinics for free I believe.

[MonkeyGirl18]

I'm under my dad's insurance and I don't want to do anything that has to use his insurance without discussing it with him. If I were on my own insurance, yeah, I'd do it without bothering to discuss it with him, but it would be under his insurance. And he doesn't like me doing things without discussing it with him or he gets mad. But I'm just too scared he would brush it off or whatever.

[Kyndreth]

Figures, I'm an arts and technology major. I'm like, on the verge of flunking out my senior year. And when I think of it, I'm like, gonna freak.

I picked up a busy schedule this semester. Because I'm stupid :/ Otherwise I could help with papers. I'm good at the BS-ing business.

Hum... my uni offers complimentary (sort of) counseling services. Take a look and see if you can find one where you're at. Admittedly, I'm not too sure about community colleges. Also some counseling offices offer crisis counseling where you can just walk in and say "I'm kinda having a crisis right now and I'd really like to talk to a counselor." At least, that's how it was explained to me.

Haven't plucked up my courage to try that though. Too scary XD

Yeah, telling my parents? Gosh, that shit is haaard. Like, I dunno. I never had the courage to tell my parents myself. Someone had to tell on me before I'd admit there were issues to them. Admittedly, I think my mom knew. She would find my journals hidden somewhere and read them while checking to see if they should be put on the communal shelves or something.

Teehee?

Anyways, after that, it was easier because the next time it came up was after my breakup with my bf of 4 years and I'd been talking maybe marrying him and stuff. Kek. That was embarrassing.


Let's see... look into some crisis services somewhere. Next time you just can't take the pressure just find a hotline for crisis around your state or city or something. Or your uni/community college. They'll give you advice on what you can do to get counselling.

The uni counselling didn't require any insurance at all. (State university, admittedly). Also, none of the info ever had to be told to my parents without my express written/signed consent.

Hum....

other than that. There's a possibility that we can put together a thread with your schedule and assignments (not express times, but just what classes you need and due dates). And we can try to help break it down for you, and have regular check ins to try manage things.

If we have that check in system, then it'd be harder for you to snowball, because people on the internet will pester you to get things done

Like. I have a paper due tuesday, Write down class, details about the paper (how many pages/words and the topic or something). And then whatever other stuff is due. And we can group plan this maybe?

Help break it down, help make it manageable, Check in daily to make sure you're on top of things.

For extra consequences, fine you feathers for failure to stay on top of goals for a day. Gift feathers for staying on top of things, etc.

Whee, carrots and sticks. Damn, I need this.

[murmurlade]

Now, that, is what you call a wall of text.

[Gingerale]

when are you due for your next check up? Use that as a reason, talk to the dr and then tell your dad "this is what the dr recommends". But you do know in the US, because you are over 18, legally he can not ask or find out about your medical treatment unless you sign a release. For now I believe federally you can be on your parents insurance until you are 26.
Sometimes the Universities have clinics that you can go to and not use insurance. I'm not advising you hide anything from your dad but I don't want you not getting help because you are afraid how he will react.Go for a check up and get a blood panel because maybe you are low in something or have a thyroid problem or what ever that may be affecting you.

I already typed this and Kyndreth beat me to it. A consequence thread sounds interesting actually for goal setting.

[Kyndreth]

Now, that, is what you call a wall of text.

Yuuup, that's what I tend to do whenever I'm thinking or I found a topic I want to talk about.

when are you due for your next check up? Use that as a reason, talk to the dr and then tell your dad "this is what the dr recommends". But you do know in the US, because you are over 18, legally he can not ask or find out about your medical treatment unless you sign a release. For now I believe federally you can be on your parents insurance until you are 26.
Sometimes the Universities have clinics that you can go to and not use insurance. I'm not advising you hide anything from your dad but I don't want you not getting help because you are afraid how he will react.Go for a check up and get a blood panel because maybe you are low in something or have a thyroid problem or what ever that may be affecting you.

I already typed this and Kyndreth beat me to it. A consequence thread sounds interesting actually for goal setting.

Well, I did spend a few minutes focused only on typing this

So! Well, that, and I've been there before. With somewhat different circumstances that made it easier in some ways harder in others. Maybe. Or maybe just easier. I'm not really sure. Relative stuff is a pain to quantify.

Yup, I was taking that from like... adhd coaching ideas and ways to deal with ADHD. That's why I thought of the gameplan + consequences thread.

[MonkeyGirl18]

I don't go to the drs unless I need to. Like, I've been once about my high blood pressure. I don't schedule check ups.

I don't have anything wrong with my thyroid for sure, they had already taken some blood from me and I don't want to do that again. -shudders-

To be completely honest, the thread idea may not even help me. I could always just lie. I mean, what is there to stop me from being dishonest? (not saying I would, but I have been known to say things to just make people happy even if it isn't true like when my dad asks if I did my homework, I'd say yeah when I haven't.)

[Kyndreth]

Yeaaah, I get that.

Oh I get that too. Blood draws... my bane! Among many other banes.

Hm... post proof? i.e. link to a completed google document? Or screenshot? Screenshot is better for privacy.

I mean, that's a good point. I'd do the same, tbh. The only solution I can think of is more like... screenshots or photo proof or stuff like that.

[Lemon Cheesecake]

Monkeygirl if you have high blood pressure you should be getting checked regularly - are you taking anything for it? You said you have problems maintaining your weight so extra pounds could affect it.
Most insurances allow one exam a year with no co-payment so you might as well take advantage of it. Tell your Mom you want to go for a yearly physical and book the appointment. Write down what is bothering you so you don't forget to ask the dr. Like your blood pressure, your anxiety, insomnia. Your parents don't have to go into the room with you. If they go to the appointment tell them its ok to sit outside and wait for you, you'll be ok. But if you want them to hear the drs advise then have one of them go in with you.

[galled]

Anxiety will raise your bp without a doubt!

[Kyndreth]

ah, interesting.

[MonkeyGirl18]

. . .

[+] SPOILER

I can't do my work when I'm in a panicky mood....


had a freaking panic attack. It's time I get some help, tbh. It's never been this bad before.


I'm done with feelings.... I'm done with everything.

[Kyndreth]

Monkey, do you live in the US? wanna call?

[murmurlade]

/offers a hug to monkey
please don't be afraid, it will pass, you should definitely seek help. you're not alone in this world.

[Kyndreth]

What murmur said. There'll be people around to help. ^^