Maro's Marshmallovv Mansion

[Yuracye]

Kyndreth: Yeah, that might be a necessity. Unless you plan to do traditional art.
q vq ;;

Same here! I know those pains q vq
I literally go through the same thing. It's an endless cycle of feeling guilty or being angry. /huffs.

It really is. That's why you need to talk about literally everything. We're not mind readers.
Yet. > > ;;

[Kyndreth]

Yuuup.

Yeah, on some level I'm happy bout the break up, but damn if I wasn't a wreck for a while. Heh.

Urgh... can I just be a shut in? i think I prefer that.

[Yuracye]

I feel like all break ups are upsetting if you get to know the person enough. We're human after all, we do care to an extent.
But you're all better now, yeah? ????

Hahaha. Yes, come join me! xD
I wish I could stay indoors all day and play games. I'm trying to convince the hubby, but it's not working so far.
Plus the extra income is nice...

[Kyndreth]

6 months now... almost. 6 months in oh... 1 week and 15-16 hours or so.

Yup... shut in life banzai!

[Yuracye]

...You know it down to the hour?
I forgot what day I actually started dating, so we made a general guess. /sweats.

YEAH! LET'S DO IT. >: U
Except I can't- because work.
Maybe after retiring- which is in like... 50 years. nbd.

[Kyndreth]

Yup, I know the break up date down to the hour. It was quite memorable. The day before university started up again.

Same for me. The day we started dating is unknown, because we never officially asked each other out or anything.

I can't because uni and work. Whee?

[Yuracye]

D-damn. That's pretty intense. o ___ o
I couldn't even tell you the year I broke up with my exes.

I was never really interested in dating tbh. I was expecting to be a crazy cat lady in my older years. |D
So, I never thought anything was going to be serious.

Cry.
What a sad life.

[Maro]

Good uhh morning... afternoon.. whatnot everyone! ^^ doing some more work today, the weather is meh , i'm doing a lot better now though

[Yuracye]

Hey Maro!
It's afternoon here now, I think. @ w @;;;

Oh noes! Well work brings money, so I suppose that's good. Whatcha working on?
Glad to hear you're doing better!

[galled]

I guess it depends on what a person means by "dating." But I've read a few here say something similar. I assume in this context, dating means meeting in person (as opposed to virtually online).

Dating is a means to an end--to find someone suitable for a relationship. It's usually awkward, sometimes frustrating or even scary, but at the same time if it works, wonderful and exhilarating. When you meet the right person, it will change your life. Perhaps there is just too much pressure associated with the word, but in a world screaming forward towards virtual relationships and away from human interaction, physical presence/interaction should be treasured even more as precious IMHO. Finding love is worth the pain and sacrifice. That said, there are no guarantees and you need to be smart and safe.

[Kyndreth]

Yuracye
It isn't my first heartbreak, but I've only ever went out with one person. My first irl boyfriend and also my second boyfriend. *shrugs*

I also wasn't interested in dating. I figured I'd be alone and bitter and didn't care. I wasn't serious either.

ikr?

I guess it depends on what a person means by "dating." But I've read a few here say something similar. I assume in this context, dating means meeting in person (as opposed to virtually online).

Dating is a means to an end--to find someone suitable for a relationship. It's usually awkward, sometimes frustrating or even scary, but at the same time if it works, wonderful and exhilarating. When you meet the right person, it will change your life. Perhaps there is just too much pressure associated with the word, but in a world screaming forward towards virtual relationships and away from human interaction, physical presence/interaction should be treasured even more as precious IMHO. Finding love is worth the pain and sacrifice. That said, there are no guarantees and you need to be smart and safe.

Sorry, I'm a wee bit confused about what depends on what a person means by "dating". Did I miss a couple posts somewhere?

I'm also a bit confused here too. Rather to whom are you directing this to and about what specifically?

[galled]

Sorry, I'm a wee bit confused about what depends on what a person means by "dating". Did I miss a couple posts somewhere?

The term has used for many things other than the classic exclusive relationship. Some use it as an activity between two people and others as a description, a sense of purpose, of the relationship without a long term goal.

All I was trying to say (I guess I did a bad job of it) was I don't think anyone really looks forward to/are interested in the act of dating. We're humans (social creatures) and It's the relationship/bonding that we want/need and dating is a means to that end.

Kyndreth, I'm sorry about your breakup. I've been on both sides of the equation and I believe that everyone (could be most everyone I suppose) needs to have their heart broken (although some only need once, others never get it) in order to appreciate love and be able to be loved on a deeper level. Perhaps that sounds cruel, but for me, I never learned what love is from my parents or relatives, and had to learn it myself (a lot through dating as in term description 3 above).

I'm also a bit confused here too. Rather to whom are you directing this to and about what specifically?

No one in particular. A few Winners have recently expressed similar comments about never being interested in dating, and I thought a different perspective would be helpful. Sorry for the confusion.

For me the most important thing in life are people. The rest is secondary. Relationships require effort, risk, and bravery by all parties to work. The bitter truth is the overwhelming majority of relationships won't work/will fail. It's good that everyone would be OK if they're alone in the end. That's healthy, but I guess what I'm getting at is it's hard, very hard. But the reward can lead to a sense of lifelong fulfillment. Don't give up.

I'll go back to my corner and lurk...

[Maro]

Mostly working on items for conversion and whatnot

[Lemon Cheesecake]

glad you are feeling better! Whatever I have had seems to linger...I think its gone and then I feel crappy again.

Looks like some interesting conversations have been going on while you've been away...slowly creeping forward on pages.

[Kyndreth]

Sorry, I'm a wee bit confused about what depends on what a person means by "dating". Did I miss a couple posts somewhere?

The term has used for many things other than the classic exclusive relationship. Some use it as an activity between two people and others as a description, a sense of purpose, of the relationship without a long term goal.

All I was trying to say (I guess I did a bad job of it) was I don't think anyone really looks forward to/are interested in the act of dating. We're humans (social creatures) and It's the relationship/bonding that we want/need and dating is a means to that end.

Kyndreth, I'm sorry about your breakup.

I've been on both sides of the equation and I believe that everyone (could be most everyone I suppose) needs to have their heart broken (although some only need once, others never get it) in order to appreciate love and be able to be loved on a deeper level. Perhaps that sounds cruel, but for me, I never learned what love is from my parents or relatives, and had to learn it myself (a lot through dating as in term description 3 above).

Ahhhh, I see what you mean now. To me when I was using the dating thing, I meant being in a relationship with a person. In this case we intended to marry. We were in a close relationship but it changed from friends to a couple, therefore we were dating.

Eh, nothing to be sorry about. It's just life. I've pretty much determined that relationships just aren't for me. I'm a terrible girlfriend. I've got too many issues that I don't have room to focus on another person. There's no way I could have a healthy relationship with my issues the way they are now. And holy hallelujah do relationships flippin hurt. And if I have kids... some of the issues would be highly inheritable. Why the hell would I want to do that to a kid, especially if it's my kid?

I suppose, but I highly doubt things will improve. A big issue was lack of communication and also my depression and me not drawing boundaries. And honestly, after that, I'm pretty sure I'll stay out of relationships for some time. After all, he was also my only friend offline. Heh. We certainly don't talk anymore.

Now I know for sure what I'll be singing tonight.

I'm also a bit confused here too. Rather to whom are you directing this to and about what specifically?

No one in particular. A few Winners have recently expressed similar comments about never being interested in dating, and I thought a different perspective would be helpful. Sorry for the confusion.

For me the most important thing in life are people. The rest is secondary. Relationships require effort, risk, and bravery by all parties to work. The bitter truth is the overwhelming majority of relationships won't work/will fail. It's good that everyone would be OK if they're alone in the end. That's healthy, but I guess what I'm getting at is it's hard, very hard. But the reward can lead to a sense of lifelong fulfillment. Don't give up.

I'll go back to my corner and lurk...

Ahhh, I see. That makes sense.

I'm a little tired of relationships, a little tired of hurting. I drift for a reason. Staying around too long is bad on the heart. Anyways, relationships right now at least are like, here's a dagger for you and a dagger for me. A drop of poison in your glass to greet you and another when we part. One day neither you nor I will be.

Or something like that is how it feels to me.