Mika's Hangout

[Mika]

Oh well... He has a say because he is 'park managers little pet'.... Park manager has him do stuff that's illegal. He will get caught one day.
All that counts is ONE day! I WILL have a moi pond and I will be able to grow water lillies. Then I will be the happiest person in the world.

[Silverfire]

I have a creek nearby and I've always known to avoid it or be careful near it. The whole water hazard thing boggles my mind because of that, though. Do people really not mind their kids enough to teach them to not be careful near source of water?

[Blue Jay]

Some parents don't teach their children at all.

I see the problem Mika indeed I am going through a situation like that right now. Though we are the one's complaining. My next door neighbor is a hoarder and has random crap piled all around his backyard and driveway. It then spills on over to our property so we have valid concern. When I say random I don't mean a bike and a few lawn chairs or toys. He had THREE tv's out in the driveway covered in a tarp for months through the rain. It's in the front yard too and it makes us look like slobs as well. The guy doesn't own the house but is a renter so he has to comply with the rules of the renter. The house was once falling apart and nothing was being done. My dad made a complaint to the city and they talked to him but he is back to his old tricks. My dad just gave him some plates with were supposed to throw out that have food and mold on them. My sister didn't wash them first because we were supposed to throw them out!!!

[Silverfire]

Blue Jay: Nnn, I can agree with that.

[Blue Jay]

I once had my little cousin nearly walk over the cliff when I was 11. I was the one paying attention to her while the adults were busy drinking and talking. Socializing is a fun thing to do but one must be aware of where their children are at all times. Unless they are 10+ where they are old enough to make wise decisions in a house. *nods head*

[Silverfire]

Ah geez. It is but if you have kids you need a eye or ten on them at all times until they are old enough.

I was trusted alone in the house when I was 8 but I knew better to touch anything that I shouldn't. I knew that I shouldn't use the stove, I was still to little to cook anything without a step stool and there were things I could put in the microwave anyway. To keep to myself and just watch TV or read if I needed something to do. It's all the matter of showing kids what to do instead of telling them what they can't do and then leaving them be.

[Blue Jay]

That is very true as well. My parents could of left me alone at the age of 7 but it's illegal to leave a kid that young alone or to take care of children. I would spend my days either counting my piggy banks or playing with my Teddy(bear) all the time.

[Silverfire]

Ah really? I was left alone pretty often at that age or just with my grandma coming in to check on me. I would just play or tell her I was going outside to play and was just left to my own devices. I knew not to wander too far and to check in every so often too.

But, well, I was shown too and knew that they would worry if I didn't and I didn't want no one to worry.

[Blue Jay]

When I was that young it didn't matter anyway my mother was a stay at home mom so she watched us all the time. Then if she needed to go somewhere without me for gifts or stuff I would play at my neighbors house. The girl next door was my best friend at the time. So it worked out though I got in trouble more when I played with her. XD

[Silverfire]

We don't have any people living nearby other than family for me then and now so yeah. Mom and dad worked, mom of the day and dad of the night and at hours I would either be in school and only see them before they went to bed/came home. And on the weekends they went out together and left me. So my mamaw (grandmother) raised me for the first part of my life pretty much.

I didn't mind it until later when my parents wouldn't even pay attention to me. Had a bad rough spot with them with that. And now that I am older I just want to leave home so I can start doing my own thing. But the job market here is making that impossible >:

[Mika]

Its really as simple as parents don't have the same kind of caring for their kids as our parents used to. They keep having kids when they are kids themselves and they are too worried about the stuff that they still want to do, why watch their own kids and teach them properly? That's why I will wait to have kids when I know I'm definitely ready for that responsibility. I plan to have my kids capable of being left at home at a young age while I work through the day like my mother did with us. You can never trust baby sitters anymore... You always see where they get caught for child pornography or child abuse.... So id rather raise them right and know they can watch themselves while I'm not at home.

[Silverfire]

Ah yeah, that too. Course some where raised that way too and just raise their kids more and more like that. And then the overprotective parents.... *sighs*

Yeah, I don't plan on trying to have any little booger of my own until I have the money to cover that and in a stable situation. I'll get my two partners to watch mine while I am gone ;l And yeah, it can be a scary for some babysitters ._.;

I just hope I am a better mom that what my mother was to me. I don't want my child to go though what I went through and it would kill me if even accidently did that.

[Blue Jay]

Wow that is sad to hear Silver!

I know the kind of parent you mean Mika. My ex friend's mom was like that. She was a teen and had her daughter. Then was so into drinking she barely paid her daughter attention. She was mostly raised by her grandmother who was another drunk. How she turned out semi decent I don't know.

[Mika]

I hear ya there. I don't plan on adopting any kids until I can afford them on my own. You can never trust a relationship to work out these days, so you've got to be prepared for the worst. I don't want my kids to struggle. It would probably break my heart.
Well some kids will learn from their parents choices. But a good portion follows in their parents foot steps.

[Blue Jay]

Sigh she learned some good things but not others. She learned how to take advantage of me and not respect the people around her. She had one friend nobody really liked who butted into everything the girl did. It drove us around her insane and when we told her to tell the girl not to she defended the friend. She owes me close to 700 dollars over the course of the last five years that she swears she will pay me back but never does. It's not even like for hey I will buy you lunch pay me back later things. I literally bought concert tickets and vip tickets for the girl and she paid me back $20 bucks that was it three years ago. Seriously I never got the money despite the fact it was agreed BEFORE I bought them that she would pay me back.