Monkey's Magical Treehouse of Awesomeness

[MonkeyGirl18]

I just know, with what my experience was during that time, I enjoyed con, don't get me wrong, I'll probably not go with that friend again because they seemed to have other plans and didn't want to tell me. They bought tickets for each day, yet only went one day and bought 1 plushie you can find in a Walmart. They seemed to want to go just to visit a friend (nothing wrong with that, but that was their main focus, it seemed) and it left me looking at the vendors by myself, in a convention center, in a different state, surrounded by hundreds of strangers. They'll make decisions amongst themselves without including me that is important for me to know. Like, please, tell me your itinerary! Don't leave me in the dark!

I was getting frustrated.


And they went knowing they don't really have much money to even spend on food. Like, why? I made sure I had money saved for the event so I can enjoy myself. If I couldn't, I wouldn't go.

It's just a whole mess. I'll just go with a couple other friends of mine who don't abandon me in a building of strangers. It really tests the strength of one's friendship. I've been friends with her since high school, but it seems our friendship may be starting to drift apart. But it's whatever. It happens. It won't be the first time it happened to me. I'm no longer friends with the very first good friend I had. Not because we had a falling out, we just had different interests as we got older and she became friends with 1 group and I became friends with another group. No biggie. It's just, this is not how I wanted it to happen. I just wish they came across having more interest in con than other things. I went there for con, enjoyed it as much as I can, but its not as fun when the people you go with wasn't focused on it and do non-con related things. It was just very awkward for me.

[galled]

8+ hours each way is a looong drive. I don't blame you at all. Did you share driving time?

Sorry to hear about your friend, but I agree, that was rude not to tell you or invite you along. Yes, people change and grow apart--such is life.

A road trip with friends to an event can make great memories, but as you've found out, it can go the other way too. Take it all as a learning experience (so as to avoid similar issues in the future).

[MonkeyGirl18]

I asked if they'd drive if I get too tired, which I never got to that point strangely (I can fall asleep quite instantly when I'm a passenger and I couldn't even drive all the way to Tennessee when me and my parents went on a trip there and that was only like a 3hr drive.) With the car I have only being a year old (literally, I bought it brand new), I was trying to drive it myself as long as I could because I get too scared of someone else driving. I'm protective of my car.

They're planning to move to North Carolina, which I feel like was their main focus anyway. They should just went and done that some other time or nor even bother with con. I live in Kentucky, so if and when they do move there, our friendship may not even last. I can't just make an 8hr trip just so we can hang out. She seems to have other friends she's closer to, anyway.

I might go to a con in December with my other friends, mostly for Christmas gifts. At least I know they won't abandon me, I've been to con with them before. And that one's definitely closer than the one I went to.

[galled]

Ooo, I don't recall you saing which car you got. New car! Exciting!!

Yeah, sounds like the way to go.

[npixelz]

Now I'm worried


I'm going to a con this month, but my ride said he's bringing other friends of his


And with what you said, I'm worried we'll have different intentions

[MonkeyGirl18]

It might help to ask about it, idk. It always good to come up with a basic plan of action about what you want to do at a con, especially if you're going multiple days and/or do events and such they hold at con. I've told my friend multiple times what I plan to do and they kept being like "yeah, we can do that" but when the time came, I find out it's not true.

Heck, once, I was trying to meet up with them so I called them to ask where they were and they told me. I told them I'm coming, wait for me. I finally get there and they had walked off somewhere else and I had to call again. It was just, they did not want to tell me what they wanted to do. All I knew is they wanted to meet up with a friend, but when they did, they wanted to go to that friend's house (her friend lives in North Carolina.) Like, ya knew what my intentions were before the trip, but I had to figure out ya's intentions myself as it's happening. It was such a stressful experience. I didn't even get to meet the celebs I wanted to meet because they had other plans and didn't want to do much con. I'm just kinda mad that I went, but non-refundable tickets, I couldn't back out, I wasn't gonna waste that money.

I'm happy about the stuff I got, but I hated everything else about the trip.

They wanted to leave me alone in the hotel room that last night and stay at their friend's house (didn't have room for me to join in) and it was in a sketchy ass area. I told them I don't feel comfortable with that so they stayed. Like, wtf? Why am I even here at this point? I was hurt. I'm not doing this with them ever again!

[galled]

I don't blame you. Totally un-cool. I would be tempted to go home without them!

pix, if you're going with more than 1, you'll have options. Monkey's experience is uncommon. I've never heard of anything like that before. I'm angry about it!

[npixelz]

Yeah, sounds terrible



That's good

[MonkeyGirl18]

I don't blame you. Totally un-cool. I would be tempted to go home without them!

She almost decided to stay with that friend and have someone else take her home. Like, I was worried they were going to back out of the trip beforehand, now I wish they did.....before I had bought my tickets (I got them early on for a discount.)

npixelz yeah, you shouldn't have to worry, it's definitely not a common thing.

[Lemon Cheesecake]

I'm sorry it wasn't a fun trip for you. Trying to plan around other people can be so frustrating. Hind sight probably should've done your own thing at con & let them know where they could meet you, instead of you meeting them, otherwise the only option would've been to just gone along with them where ever they went.

I do have to say I am glad they did listen to you & not ditch you alone the last night. That could've ended badly being a woman alone!

I am surprised the con didn't have better hotels set aside like anime does. Did they at least offer free shuttles to the con?

[npixelz]

Totes not a fun time

Thanks, I'm now not worried


Good q's Lem

[MonkeyGirl18]

I am surprised the con didn't have better hotels set aside like anime does. Did they at least offer free shuttles to the con?

Nope (not afaik). The hotel was a mile away, but with traffic, was a 7 minute drive, not counting to find parking.

[Lemon Cheesecake]

I've only done Anime Expo not Con so don't know if it is set up the same. But Anime was very thorough, they offered hotels within a mile or so radius at a cheaper then you could normally rent them for & they offered a free shuttle running about every 30 minutes (depending on traffic), which were air conditioned buses & they only took those that could show their pass. Local bus transit was available for those who didn't want to wait for the shuttle & some hotels were about a 15-30 min walk unless you were able to grab the onsite hotels & then it was all right there.

[npixelz]

Sounds like they were well organized

[MonkeyGirl18]

One thing I question is why they give convention centers extremely little parking. I swear, the NC con I went to had a parking lot smaller than the convention center for the con in my state, and we don't get as busy as them.