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[npixelz]

Agreed, books take far longer and require good eyes and being literate, but imo they can be a much better experience! Plus with audible and the like, it's become more accessible!

[Lemon Cheesecake]

oh ya! Audio books are just like when the Teacher or parent or grandparent would read to us. That's good memories!

[npixelz]

I actually didn't like being read to. In fact, I used to not like books at all! But after a little time reading them myself I was hooked! Hooked on books!

[Lemon Cheesecake]

That is actually a good advertisement to encourage kids to read!

I liked being read to but I also liked to skim through or read through the books myself because I couldn't wait to find out what happened at the end!

Sometimes I'd read the start & then read the last chapter to decide whether I wanted to read the book to find out how they got there.

[npixelz]

Lol yeah!

Yeah, reading by yourself means you can set the pace

:o

[JinMay]

@Lemon Cheesecake It's really lovely, honestly. They're such a great person, has the patience of a saint. I don't think I've ever seen him truly mad all this time. It's difficult since he's in a different state at the moment but he does his best to visit ever couple weeks.

npixelz I am definitely thinking of visiting my local library and seeing if they need help, maybe I could work there. I think it would be really fun to work there.

[Lemon Cheesecake]

JinMay, long distance relationships aren't like the old days where you had to wait a week or two for a letter with a response & even phone calls you can face time with people. It does give the chance of learning about one another in more depth. But I suppose there is that hard question of if you were to be together full time, which area would you live in & who would care for your parents? Something you will have to decide on. Did you say you have other siblings to help with your parents? It is very admirable that you stepped up to help them for now but you also have to consider what is going to happen long term.

I think schools & universities hire for their libraries, look online to see what the job description is & qualifications needed. Those jobs most likely have health benefits & retirement included.

[JinMay]

We were talking last night once I got home from work and apparently people have asked him why he doesn't just bring me over there to stay with him. Well he never actually asked me but he says he didn't want to ask because he doesn't want to take me away from my family since he knows I'm super close to my parents. I have three younger siblings. One of them is married and moved away, the other two live here with them. I suppose if I do leave to Arizona my parents wouldn't exactly be alone.

Ohh I see, interesting. Hmm, I'll have to ask then because I have a job interview at a school on Tuesday. So I'll see if maybe they need someone to help in their library.

[Lemon Cheesecake]

You should go visit him in Arizona before you make a final decision to move there. Arizona weather is hot & they get flash floods. Hopefully his home has air conditioning.

I am glad you are not shouldering the care of your parents on your own. I am sure they would want to see you happy & work it all out.

[JinMay]

I have visited Arizona a few times with him. He's stationed there but the base also has apartments for the military members who have a family so they can live together. I've seen the apartments and they're honestly very nice. Now I don't know if they give the option to dating couples or only to married couples.

Yeah my siblings help a little bit. One of them is usually the one helping with groceries. We also do the chores in the house to make it easier on our parents. My parents do seem to love my boyfriend which is a relief actually. I was nervous they wouldn't be a fan because he lives far away.

[Lemon Cheesecake]

wow that is a biggie that your parents like your boyfriend, yay!

Ok, good you have been out to see him there. In the military he could end up moving, depending on whether he gets stationed somewhere else ... are you ok with moving around? Is he in a position he won't be deployed?

How did you like Arizona? I've only been there at the Phoenix airport changing planes so have not ever seen what it is really like, only heard/read about it.

[JinMay]

It's a big deal. I haven't introduced him to other family members because some of them are very judgemental and rude. I don't want my partner to feel uncomfortable.

I don't think he'll be getting deployed anytime soon and he's almost done with his service too so.. but he might be going away on a detachment for a few weeks. Now, I am not sure if I am allowed to go with him on those because it's obviously for work and so it's very private. I don't mind moving around. My only concern is that I still want to have time to visit my family from time to time.

Arizona is nice. It is pretty hot yeah, but here where I live in California it's pretty hot too so it's not much of a change for me.

[Lemon Cheesecake]

It's ok to keep the circle of people small. Thoughtful of you to think about how your partner will feel. The big thing is whether your parents think he is respectful to you & whether they thing he will be a good match as life is tough & I am sure they don't want you to feel heart break.

I'm not too sure on how the military works, I do know people who are in it & there are rules to be abided by. Sometimes they resign on after their time is completed but hopefully he can find work at something he enjoys afterwards... whether it is in Arizona or somewhere else.

[npixelz]

If you do decide to work at the library, Def tell me how it goes!

[Gingerale]

Yes, JinMay, we are all interested to hear how it goes!